Like Yourself First

You can’t fake it – so don’t even try.

It’s the first thing people notice about you and it happens without speaking a word. What you’re projecting speaks volumes – loudly.

What is it? It’s your attitude about yourself – something that you’re broadcasting to others all the time – for better or worse.

Your feelings of certainty, competence, and confidence – or uncertainty, inexperience and fear of failure – influence other people more than you might suspect.

Do you love your job, or hate it? Like people? Distrust people? Either way, it shows. And others are affected positively or negatively by these feelings.

Your attitudes are determined by your personal opinions and feelings about yourself, others, your job and your life in general. Other people perceive each of these attitudes and more, every time you interact with them. The message comes across through your posture, your eyes, tone of voice, your manner, what you say and how you say it, your general outlook on life and other less visible elements.

As most people base their feelings about you on first impressions, your attitude about yourself takes on a vital role. Whether they like you or not is directly proportional to how much you like and trust yourself.

There is a powerful element at work here and it can propel you to stellar heights or sabotage your best efforts at getting ahead.

If you don’t like you, neither will they. If you don’t trust yourself, neither will they.

And if they don’t like you or trust you, they will search out or invent reasons not to be around you.

So what can you do if you’re not feeling that great about yourself today? Here are a few tips that might help get your attitude on the right track.

First, just imagine that you have something to smile about. Then force yourself to smile for at least one minute. Yes, just smile. I know, it may seem a little artificial at first, but soon you’ll find it’s easier to do without effort.

Next, find something that you like or admire about yourself, your job, your house, your friends, your life, or anything at all. Keep at it for at least one minute or until you feel a change for the better.

Finally, get outside and talk to people – get interested in people and you’ll see that they’re interested in you. Just ask them something that you might be interested in. Ask them about their business, the weather, the price of gas, anything. You’ll see they’re not that scary. Just keep at this until you feel at least a little better.

It only takes a very slight change to create a huge difference in the way you are perceived by others.

The result is that you will attract more attention, interest, friends and relationships; and soon you really will have something to smile about.

Try it. It’s easier than you think.

daniel w. jacobs
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