Pessimistic Thinking Syndrome

Are you looking for a change in your life?

This is something that will cost you nothing, as you already own it. It is something that you can control that is stronger than all your doubt, worries, fears, and superstitions combined. And it’s easier than you think.

What is it?

It is the power to control and direct your own mind.

Your mind is something over which you have complete control. It’s yours alone. No one else owns it. And no one else can truly control it.

Whether you think of undesirable consequences or desirable circumstances, you are ordering your mind to attract these things to you.

Because whatever your mind feeds upon, your mind feeds you in return.

All success begins with a clear picture in your mind of what you want in life; the only limitations you have are those you set up for yourself or others set up for you that you agreed with.

You have the ability to decide, control and direct your mind toward whatever ends you want. Only you decide whether to use it or you lose it.

What you create in your mind is what you will see in the future. But this sword cuts both ways.

This quick survey might surprise you:

  1. Do you habitually think about how something could go wrong?
  1. Do your thoughts typically focus on what you don’t have or can’t have?
  1. Do you often feel there is just “never enough” of what you want?

If you answered, “yes” to any of these questions, you may be afflicted with what I have termed: Pessimistic Thinking Syndrome.

This is a condition where your thoughts are habitually fixed on what bad consequence might happen. Even when the negative possibilities are slight, your attention is magnetically drawn to a potentially bad outcome.

In doing so, this habit could be causing you more trouble than you imagine.

Why?

Because of this powerful, natural law:

You tend to attract what you keep your attention on.

Your attention is like a giant, super-magnet that attracts to you exactly what you keep it focused on.

To the optimist, negative thinking seems self-defeating.

To the pessimist it makes sense because it’s the safest way to handle losing or other painful emotions.

The common denominator is that they both made a decision – a decision that each believes will help them.

  1. The optimist has decided to “go all in” and keep their attention on their goals and dreams. They appreciate what they “do have” and spend little or no time worrying about what they don’t have.
  1. The pessimist has decided to “cut their losses” and look for reasons to explain why they gave up. Their thoughts are fixed on explanations of why it’s better to not try than to try and then fail.

Each one has used the decision-making ability of their mind – one of the most powerful tools they have – to either go for broke or play it safe.

Whatever direction they pursue, their attention and thoughts tend to attract that future result.

Whatever you decide is what will dictate your own future.

OK, so what is the antidote for Pessimistic Thinking Syndrome?

Before you can solve any problem, you must first recognize and acknowledge that there is one.

So first, look at the problem and answer the question: What is it?

Is it a thought, an emotion, a feeling, a pain, a stress or a loss?

Just name whatever it is and write this down on a piece of paper in bold print.

Next, put it on your desk in front of you, or tack it to the wall, or whatever. Put it some place that you can see it easily.

Now, look at it. Don’t do anything to it, just look at it.

Usually you’ll start thinking about whatever it is and feel the urge to do something about it. Just ignore those thoughts for the time. Just look at the paper until you’re comfortable with this step.

Now, with the paper about two-feet away from you, reach for the paper with your hand and touch the paper.

Then withdraw your hand from the paper. Continue this until you feel better about it and can do this easily.

This is an exercise designed to increase your awareness of the problem and begin to see it as something different than you.

Write a little essay on why pessimistic thinking is beneficial for you.

Keep writing until you feel a bit better.

Next, do an asset search of your life, looking for simple things that you take for granted.

Then make a decision to strengthen your assets by focusing on them, nourishing them with your attention.

You’ll soon discover that worries and dreams are both kept alive by constant attention. Which one you decide to keep your attention on is the key to which direction your life follows.

By the way, if you just can’t seem to find any assets about you or your life you might want to take this advice from novelist William Gibson:

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by assholes.”

All the most successful self-improvement literature is based on the power of this simple premise: You tend to become what you think about most.

But they left out the most important fact: What your attention is on is a direct influence on what you think about.

So, the solution is to practice controlling your attention, and your thoughts and your direction in life will follow.

See, I told you it would be easier than you thought.

daniel w. jacobs
(c) 2012-2030, all rights reserved

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